“But for friendship to really survive, there must be common interests. Interests can be different from love for, for example, music, art, sports, fashion, some other type of hobby, through business interests and partnerships. The existence of interests is a fact and it is important to understand that they exist and that your friendship can either be further strengthened or, conversely, due to the appearance of jealousy in an uncontrolled amount, it can lead to the breakdown of such a relationship.“
Friendships are irreplaceable. Throughout life, you conclude that there are some, those friendships that are timeless. There are also those that only happen at a certain point in life in accordance with the situation. The longer you think about them, you can see that some of them are interesting, which started with a common interest, focus. Let them just show up, at the right time.
But friendships also come and go. Some that you think will never end, that you swear by simply fade. What is a common occurrence is the existence of friendships in which there is a certain dose of mutual competition, who will be better, who will be more beautiful. Jealousy in friendships is not uncommon either. Jealousy is usually considered a negative emotion, but jealousy, (which those who experience and do not notice) can be a compelling motivator for self-growth and strengthening friendships.
But ask yourself, have you ever been in the clutches of jealousy in some friendship? Not the crazy and histrionic kind that shows up in reality shows, but the kind of jealousy that makes you feel mischievous, insecure, and funny on the inside. Jealousy can occur whenever we have a passionate affection for someone, which is common in love friendships as well as romantic relationships. When we love someone from a naked and uncontrollable place within ourselves, we open our hearts to an unpredictable, uncontrollable flow of love, a primordial friendship. Jealousy activates your primal needs of belonging. It can make you feel crazy and do crazy things because it affects your ultimate vulnerability – your fear of potential abandonment. When you think that someone will steal someone from you or that someone else will become more important to your beloved friend than you, you can feel helpless and powerless. You are faced with all the ways in which you feel inadequate, unattractive, and unkind.
Jealousy shows you places you haven’t developed in yourself – traits that others have that you might want to work on. You can discover your competitive side, which can be useful for increasing your attention to the things you want to improve (within yourself).
But for friendship to really survive, there must be common interests. Interests can be different from love for, for example, music, art, sports, fashion, some other type of hobby, through business interests and partnerships. The existence of interests is a fact and it is important to understand that they exist and that your friendship can either be further strengthened or, conversely, due to the appearance of jealousy in an uncontrolled amount, it can lead to the breakdown of such a relationship.
Sometimes it can be difficult to “fit in” with friends when you have an eclectic range of interests. But that’s not a bad thing.
Human beings crave belonging and community. You adopt identities and connect with certain subcultures to gain a sense of importance. Each of you has different friends, so they have friends of friends. They are all very different from each other, but each of them is special and allows you to express a different side of your personality.
Instead of worrying that you are not part of a group or subculture, with a lot of friends you are undoubtedly part of some group. You need to find her.
Why is it important not to worry about how many groups of friends you have, which is more important to you, even about whether you have few friends? The real ones.
First, stop looking at having more groups of friends as a nuisance. There will always be someone first at that moment. It depends … on the interest at the moment. Approach your social life the way you approach your interests: accept diversity and be proud of it. On the other hand, don’t apologize for not fitting into any group.
Hang out with one group as much as you want, then get to another group, and so on. Enjoy how each type of person brings a different side of your personality and don’t worry too much about what other people think. Just have fun.
Be a connector and form your own group of friends, not based on common interest but a common curiosity about the world and a desire for a plural life.
When you have friends, different groups of people around you, who bind you depending on your interests, accept their differences as well. In order to be friends with someone, it is necessary to be tolerant, open, honest, and ready to (slightly) push your boundaries.
Friendship is important, if not most important to a man.
So relax. Enjoy the opportunities provided to you to have different groups of people for friends. By accepting their differences, you are also accepting your own. You become a rich person, tolerant, broad-minded.
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