“To really know how to say if you are happy (or what makes you happy) as a person, you need to stop and think. It’s not just a cliché answer to a question, but a really big thing for your life. The experiences of those who have previously asked themselves about the answer to a given question say that when it comes to long-term happiness, material things, great success, wealth, fame, power, good looks, romantic love and do not make people very happy. An example is the winners of games of chance (millions of winnings in the lottery and the like). A prestigious award, a big raise, an exciting new relationship, a fancy new car, weight loss, these things can initially make you feel great, but the excitement doesn’t last long.”
We all want to be happy. But is it even possible to become happier? Do you, like many people, have a list of things you think you need to be truly happy? There are many external influences that society encourages you to pursue to achieve happiness, according to the mold of social norms: success, wealth, fame, power, good looks, romantic love. Are these apparent and seemingly obvious examples of happiness “really” happiness?
Different people make different things happy. Someone, having a lot of money or a new car, makes you happy. Nice apartment, furniture. Some little things make someone happy. And yet, on the other hand, things that are related to relationships with other people make someone happy. It also has to do with how aware you are of what makes you happy. What do you really want? And the connection with what makes you unhappy, in a moment or otherwise. During a pandemic, “only God’s health” is constantly repeated, but people are forgotten in everyday life, so chasing some material things that society imposes as a form of success and happiness enters the circle of stress, so health also becomes questionable.
You also carry a lot from your family, even though the environment oppresses you and imposes its norms. Some things you never even realized. You don’t even know they exist, so they are not predictors of happiness. Some find their happiness in inner peace, through faith, religion, meditation, some through external stimuli, gifts, the realization of material wealth, and on the other hand, it makes someone happy with personal success. For someone, happiness is a really good, relaxed word with friends, with coffee, without “difficult” topics, relaxed.
To really know how to say if you are happy (or what makes you happy) as a person, you need to stop and think. It’s not just a cliché answer to a question, but a really big thing for your life. The experiences of those who have previously asked themselves about the answer to a given question say that when it comes to long-term happiness, material things, great success, wealth, fame, power, good looks, romantic love and do not make people very happy. An example is the winners of games of chance (millions of winnings in the lottery and the like). A prestigious award, a big raise, an exciting new relationship, a fancy new car, weight loss, these things can initially make you feel great, but the excitement doesn’t last long. Human beings quickly adapt to new circumstances – a quality that helps you survive and thrive. But it also means that the positive things that initially make you happier soon become your new norm and you go back to your old foundation of happiness.
“If you are confused and in trouble, be patient, because patience is the key to happiness.” – Rumi
However, researchers in the field of positive psychology have found that you can truly increase your happiness and overall life satisfaction – and that does not require winning the lottery or some other drastic change of circumstances. An internal change of perspective and attitude is needed. And that’s really good news because it’s something anyone can do. How to change your attitude and perspective? A good example might be just analyzing what drives you inside. For example, studies show that there is some evidence that religious participation in some – but not all – areas makes a difference, according to a new report by the Pew Research Center. Every religion directs you to do good to others (by the expression he wants others what you want to yourself). Perhaps this is one of the reasons for a happier life for people with deep religious beliefs.
Also, living together, as a family, can make you happy. A healthy family lifestyle and warm family relationships are also one of good predictors of a happy life. If you were “lucky” and the knowledge to find someone with a partner with whom you can build a life together in the spirit of compromise, healthy lifestyle, sharing, support, happiness reveals itself. Man is a social being, and even in the microsystem of relationships with one person, it means a lot for the whole life.
There are certainly some daily activities/habits. Whatever your version of true happiness, happier and more contented life is at your fingertips. Your usual daily habits can help you be happy.
For example laughing, laughing. Good habit. You are more prone to smile when you are happy. But it’s, actually, a two-way street. We smile because we are happy, and laughing causes the brain to release dopamine, which makes us happier. That doesn’t mean you have to constantly go around with a fake smile on your face. But the next time you feel moody almost uttered, and unhappy, bring a smile to your face and see what happens.
Dancing, physical activities, walking in nature, gardening. These are all good habits that can make you happy. Of course, as much as someone wants to do it. But to find out, you have to try first. Some analyses say that working in the garden, touching the ground, and plants promotes the production of serotonin’s natural happiness hormone. So try it.
Sleep, no matter how much modern society directs you toward less sleep, know that adequate sleep is vital to good health, brain function, and emotional well-being.
Being grateful – simply being grateful can, among other benefits, give your mood a big boost. For example, a recent two-part study found that practicing gratitude can significantly impact feelings of hope and happiness. Here you can return to religion. Gratitude for every day you get a chance to live and work can be a big deal. Every day you can see that someone loves you or that you love someone. With a little practice, you may even become more aware of all the positive things around you.
Give a compliment to someone – research shows that kind deeds can help you feel happier, happier. You must have experienced it when you help someone and that feeling of fulfillment and satisfaction that you were there for someone when you needed it. A sincere compliment is a quick, easy way to brighten someone’s day while giving you an incentive for happiness.
“Whoever gives respect gets respect.” – Rumi
Breathe deeply – meditation, prayer, walking in nature… all of you are asked to breathe. Learn to breathe. According to Harvard Health, deep breathing exercises can help reduce stress.
Last but not least. He loves you. Love yourself and others. There is no denying that love for someone causes happiness in you. Take any book or turn on the radio or TV and you will hear something about some love. Even the oldest written love song discovered to date has something to add to this theme: “You have enchanted me, let me stand trembling before you,” reads the translation of “Love Songs for Shu-Sin,” which dates to about 2000 BC Examples of Modern media, including romantic comedies and sentimental stories of kindred spirits, can sometimes be a little hard to swallow, especially if Cupid’s arrows don’t hit you that hard. But if you’ve fallen in love, love yourself, you’ll know that occasional exaggerations don’t miss you completely.
“A friend is a wonderful thing because a friend drawing strength from a friend draws strength, grows, and comes to life. What wonder is it that the thought of Leila gave strength to Majnun and that he fed on the thought of it? The beloved who is the shadow has so much power and effect that he gives strength to the lover; so why then do you wonder when the True Beloved gives strength at the thought of Him, either in the presence or in absence? ”
Happiness is invisible, and yet so important to your life. You can find happiness everywhere, you just need to open your eyes well. Maybe it’s right next to or in front of you. Happiness is in you.
“Life without love is not important. Don’t ask yourself what kind of love you should look for, spiritual or material, divine or life, eastern or western. Divisions only lead to more divisions. Love has no label, no definitions. It is what it is, pure and simple “Love is the water of life. And the lover is the soul of fire! The universe turns differently when fire loves water.” Rumi